Coming to university is an intimidating experience – moving away from home, leaving your friends and family behind, and ultimately taking the first step to being an independent adult. Any added pressure is not really desirable, but there will be those among you that share the similar situation that I found myself in: coming to university a virgin.
First of all, it is nothing to be ashamed of. Unfortunately, in this society we seem to have given young males the feeling that being a virgin is to wear a badge of dishonour for all to see; until that moment when it is suddenly ripped from your chest and you can watch the ‘I just had sex’ video on repeat and really understand how it feels. The other thing to realise is that your new-found friends may not have had as much experience as they say they have, my honest advice is – to be honest! Because when the moment does come, you are going to want to tell people – I know I did!
So I would say just relax and enjoy Freshers – do not worry about it. Girls are less likely to go home with guys (not strictly true) in the first week as they (unfairly) get labelled as ‘easy’. But trust me the moment will come and you will enjoy it, unless you prematurely ejaculate within in seconds of losing it and then awkwardly get asked to leave… and no, that is not what happened to me.
I did come to university almost completely inexperienced, and that changes very quickly (first Saturday of Freshers’ in my case). So try and put yourself out there, but do not feel too much pressure. Most of the ‘lads’ probably have not screwed as many ‘bitches’ as they have been saying and I expect these ‘bitches’ were probably not writhing around in ‘ecstasy’ as they may have also been boasting.
Maybe you want to lose it in a long term relationship. That’s fine and University is a good place to find a suitable match. But I would certainly suggest just enjoying the freedom for a while – you will be going out a lot more than you have experienced before (most likely, unless you had a wild Skins-esque college experience) and if you get tied down straight away you may feel as if you are missing out. So just have fun! And when you do lose it I’m sure you will realise it is not really the big deal that you thought it was. Unless you lose it dressed as Wally, after you went back with someone from a Where’s Wally themed club night… and yes, since you asked, that is exactly what happened to me in Freshers’ week.
This is University, not year 7. No-one cares whether you are a virgin or not.