Opposites attract, or so they say, but what if you were told that one simple life choice was stopping you from meeting ‘Mr. Right’? That it was leading you down a long and painful road of wrong relationships and heartache? You’d think that the best thing to do would be to eliminate this part of your life. You’d be wrong.
Scientific research has proven that heterosexual women are more attracted to men whose genetic makeup is dissimilar to their own; subconsciously aware that they would have a strong relationship, a healthy baby and a happy ever after. Apparently our animal instincts come into play with this and we are wooed by, not a few cheesy chat up lines or a couple of glasses of wine, but body odour. The problem is, new research claims that by taking the contraceptive pill, women can neither properly sense compatible pheromones nor give off their own natural scent; thereby leading to unfaithful, sexually unsatisfactory and generally unsuitable relationships. So why not stop taking it and find another contraceptive? The answer is simple, we need to stand up and take responsibility for our own actions. There are many reasons why relationships don’t work out and to shift the blame onto some tiny, inanimate pill, appears to be, what can only be called, an easy way out.
Let’s get down to basics. It’d be fair to say that at some point we’ve all gawped at a celebrity, whether it be on the glamorous big screen or in a glossy magazine. Besotted, we come to the conclusion that they would be our dream partner. We have no control over the way that we see these people and we certainly can’t smell them. So, if this new research is anything to go by, surely we wouldn’t be able to find them attractive. However, the fact is, we use our initiative to judge whether we personally find someone physically or mentally appealing.
This is by no means to say that a relationship with a person based purely on looks would be right or last long. In fact, if anything, it would be a lustful, short-lived affair.
Still, this is exactly what the new research places under the guise of correct when finding a soul mate. For, the results suggests that women who take the contraceptive pill are more likely to go for men with lower testosterone levels, as they see them as more long term prospects.
On the other hand, women who are not on the pill are fuelled by hormones which encourage them to battle for the most sexually attractive and masculine males. This leaves the findings to be somewhat contradictory, as choosing a partner based on short-term and lustful outlooks is favoured over looking at the bigger picture.
Granted, it is commonly said that true love comes and finds you when you least expect it, but you’d think that not expecting it would entail something other than fighting over the hottest hunk of man in Willow just because you’re on a hormone fuelled rampage.
As for cheating, how an immoral act can be passed off as the fault of a pill is beyond me. The study claims that if a couple are genetically similar they are less sexually satisfied and thus, more prone to cheating.
However, male or female, if you are unhappy in a relationship you should get out of it, or at least talk things over, rather than being unfaithful.
The capacity to be able to cheat and hurt someone to such a great extent for the selfish reasons suggested by this research, only leads to the conclusion that the person involved would have to be inherently self-absorbed. If this were the case then they obviously wouldn’t be deserving of a loving relationship in the first place.Love is a case of trial and error. You have to kiss a fair few frogs to find your prince charming, and even when you think you’ve found him, in the blink of an eye he could turn into a fickle, heartless troll. Women who are not on the pill have just as many failed relationships as those who are. It’s just a case of finding the right person and for some that’s much harder than for others. This new research only seems to seek to excuse our mistakes, whether it’s cheating or simply choosing to be with the wrong person. We need to take responsibility and learn from our mistakes when it comes to love. After all, it’s our own feelings that control our actions and nobody else’s.